Growing up, I was well aware that my mother had been one
of the beautiful and popular girls at school, both high school and college. Not
until I started going through letters saved between 1946 and 1950 did I realize
just HOW popular!
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| Letters my mother saved |
The stacks of letters reveal there had been more
boyfriends than I had ever heard about. Bruce. Pete. George. Bob. Graham. Of
course, I want to know more although, quite frankly, I have been reluctant to
open the letters for fear of learning something I don’t want to know!
Nevertheless, with one eye closed, I began opening
envelopes. Since Graham always included his last name in the return address, I
decided to start with him. The letters begin in the summer of 1947 following Momma’s
first year at Shenandoah College where Graham must have been a student as well.
Graham’s letters are “hot and heavy” professions of love blah blah blah. He
called her “Pretty Face,” “Dream Girl,” “Sweet,” and “Booby” (Booby?? What the
heck?). He signed off, “Loving you every minute” and – my favorite – “Loving
you like a fiend.”
Then in 1949 the letters are just friendly. He addressed
her by her nickname “Duny” and signed off, “As B/4 Graham.” The “break up” must
have occurred in 1948. I’m guessing Momma did not save all the letters because
there are none from him that year.
Here is what I learned:
My mother must have been a poor pen pal because Graham
always seemed surprised when she wrote back quickly and relieved when she
finally responded. One time he even praised her for getting better at
letter-writing.
During the summer of 1947 Graham was desperately looking
for work. Unable to find anything, he described himself as being “like a lost
ball in high weeds.” Eventually he took a job for a company in Ontario.
Graham liked to party. Sometimes he didn’t get home until
the wee hours. There were days he drank beer all afternoon.
My favorite insight into Graham’s personality is this: he
called his car “the sex machine.”
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Back of a postcard Graham sent from Gettysburg
on his way to Canada |
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| Letter from Graham while in Canada |
In another incident involving “the sex machine,” Graham’s
personality shines through as he described the night he hit a dog:
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| from one of the letters summer 1947 |
Graham was not returning to Shenandoah but had applied to
North Carolina State and to the University of North Carolina. He was quite
anxious to hear whether he would be accepted at either. While he joked that he
might flunk out the first semester, he must have been smarter than he thought
because he was accepted at BOTH schools.
Apparently, he chose to go to NC State with his best
friend but later regretted that decision and enrolled at UNC. In the last
letter that Momma saved, Graham described himself as being “a square peg in a
round hole” at NC State and wished he had been at UNC Chapel Hill all along.
Wondering what became of Graham after that, I headed to
Ancestry and searched “Graham Wilson.” Up popped the UNC yearbook with this
picture:
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Graham Wilson
UNC Chapel Hill 1950
A.B. degree in Economics |
Back in January, I posted photos of my mother with a
man yet to be identified.
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| Graham Wilson and "Pretty Face" |
MYSTERY SOLVED!
The man was Graham Wilson. I wonder if that’s the “sex
machine” in the background.
Here is Graham again in a photo previously unidentified:
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| "Duny" and Graham |
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Elizabeth Hardison
Meredith College 1948 |
Graham found another pretty face to woo and marry:
Elizabeth Hardison, a graduate of Meredith College with a degree in biology. They
had two daughters. Graham and Elizabeth had been married 53 years when he died
in 2004.
Amy Johnson Crow continues to challenge genealogy
bloggers and non-bloggers alike to think about our ancestors and share a story
or photo about them. The challenge is “52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks.”
Wendy
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