Asking me to choose a favorite photo is like asking me to
pick a favorite child. I will show you one today, but tomorrow that may change.
Right now my favorite photo is this one of my grandaunt Helen Killeen Parker.
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| Aunt Helen she captioned this "The Vamp" |
I knew her only in her older years, so this photo of her
in a 1920s swim dress with a hand-crank gramophone in the great outdoors has made
me see her in a different light. But the real reason I love the photo is that I
love HER and the legacy she left behind in the form of scrapbooks and loose
photos. They make me want to know more about my dad’s side of the family, but
Helen did not make it easy. Very few of Helen’s photos are labeled, so it has
been a slow process eking out the small details to help me formulate a story of
the Sheehan sisters who emigrated from Ireland to New York in the 1880s. For
the most part, the family is still a mystery.
LOOKING BACK TO WEEK 2 OF 2019
Last year at this time when the 52 Ancestors theme was “Challenge,”
I wrote about the challenge of finding 2 unnamed nephews mentioned in the
obituary of Sr Vincent Carmel, aka Sadie Byrnes, Helen’s cousin and daughter of
Elizabeth Sheehan Byrnes, my great-grandmother’s sister. Here I am a year
later, writing about the same thing, but this year the story has a different
ending.
All I knew last year was this: when Sadie died in 1973, she was survived by 2
nieces and 2 nephews. I knew the girls were Madeline and Patricia, daughters of
Sadie’s brother John. John died young in 1925, and his widow remarried. I wondered
if she had children with her new husband Joseph P. Maloney or if one of Sadie’s
other brothers had children.
DNA COMES CALLING
A short couple of weeks ago, a man (I’ll call him “K”) whose
DNA matched with my dad’s contacted me to figure out how we are related. The
surnames in “K’s” database did not resemble mine at all. However, we both had
Irish immigrant ancestors in New York, so I suspected there was a good chance
that we might find a connection collaterally further up the chain. I gave him
names:
- Johanna Sheehan and Patrick Hederman
- Margaret Sheehan and John Nagle
- Elizabeth Sheehan and Patrick Byrnes (parents of John, Sadie, Robert, and others)
- Delia Sheehan and William Christian
Mine was not “K’s” only match nor only contact. He found
John Byrnes’ granddaughter (I’ll call her “M”) and pointed her to my blog. She
wrote to thank me for sharing this photo of her grandfather.
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| Labeled "Jack" - a nickname for John John Byrnes 1919 |
THOSE MYSTERY NEPHEWS
“M” also helped solve the mystery of the unnamed nephews.
Well, part of it anyway. John Byrnes’ widow Madeline and her second husband
Joseph P. Maloney had two sons: Joseph Jr and Robert. While that seemed to fit
the facts of Sadie Byrnes’ obituary, Robert had been killed during the Korean
War so would not have been one of the surviving nephews. Joseph Jr is still
living, making him one of the two. But who was the other one? “M”
had no suggestions because her family did not keep up with the other Byrnes
brothers.
THE PLOT THICKENS AND SO DOES THE MYSTERY
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| labeled "Cousin Bob" Robert Byrnes 1919 |
“K” was searching for the REAL father of a man with whom
he matched DNA. In so doing, he found brother Robert Byrnes whose common name
and lack of other details had caused confusion in my tree for a while. It turns
out that Robert had a wife, Mary Dempsey, and a son and daughter. Of course, that
just threw off Sadie’s survivor count which had said 2 nieces and 2 nephews. Unless
Robert’s daughter died before 1973, there were 3 nieces and 2 nephews.
But not so fast! “K” found more. It seems ol’ Robert was
a bit of a rascal. He fathered a child with wife Mary’s sister Helen who was also
married at the time. And there it is – the point where Sheehan-Byrnes-Dempsey
DNA reared its Irish head. “K” found the answer to his question.
Robert was not finished though. He fathered children with
another woman whom he finally married in 1963 just one month before his own
death.
How did the obituary get it so wrong? Sadie’s close
family were the children and grandchildren of her brother John. They were not close with the other Byrnes brothers
and therefore likely had no knowledge of Robert’s life.
While my favorite photo has nothing to do with this
story, Helen is the one who made these discoveries possible.
Amy Johnson Crow continues to challenge genealogy
bloggers and non-bloggers alike to think about our ancestors and share a story
or photo about them. The challenge is “52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks.”
Wendy
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