“We need to get together more often and not at a
funeral.” How many times have you and a cousin said that? Funerals are much
like a family reunion. You can learn a lot about a family just by looking at
who showed up. Using my grandparents’ guest books and sympathy cards, I’ll be
exploring “Who came to the funeral?”
is for Gilbert Stepp. The absence of a signature in the Guest Book at my grandfather’s funeral October 1963 tells me the Stepps probably didn’t attend. However, they sent what must have been a beautiful arrangement of fuchsia gladiolas, white mums, and lavender pompoms.
Gilbert was married to my grandfather’s first cousin,
Vessie Jollett.
Gilbert was born in Shenandoah, Virginia in 1895, and was
one of ten children born to Andrew and Lavinia Stepp. But what was his name? I
always knew him as “Gilbert A. Steppe” with an “e” on the end. His tombstone
has an “e” but his brother who attended the funeral signed the book “Paul J.
Stepp,” no “e.” And what about that middle name? Supposedly “A” stood for
Arburne. However, his draft registration clearly says “Orvin.” He even signed
his name “Gilbert Orvin.” And Steppe with an "e"!
Gilbert registered for the draft in 1917, but he
requested not to serve based on having crops that needed tending and siblings
who depended on him. Apparently that
didn’t work. He enlisted in November
1917 and was released two years later in 1919.
Gilbert’s father had been a bridge carpenter at one time
and later a farmer. Gilbert no doubt learned some wood-working from his
father. Some of the Stepp boys became
successful carpenters and contractors.
Gilbert and Vessie married in 1922. Their only son
Jollette was born the following year. According to the 1930 census, Gilbert was
putting those carpentry skills to use for the steam railroad, one of the major
employers in Shenandoah. They owned their home on Fourth Avenue.
When World War II came knocking, many of my distant relatives left Shenandoah to find work with the government, some going to the shipyard in Norfolk, some going to Baltimore, and some to Washington D. C. Gilbert and family moved to Dahlgren in Northern Virginia where he worked as a carpenter for the Naval Proving Grounds, known today as the Naval Surface Weapons Center.
He and Vessie spent the rest of their lives in Dahlgren,
but both came back to Shenandoah to be buried among most of their family in the
Coverstone Cemetery.
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Gilbert A. Steppe's tombstone Coverstone Cemetery, Shenandoah, VA |
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